Originally posted by Kathryn
… Larry, thank you for letting me write on your thread, i dont need a reply, i just needed to get that out, and i know that you wouldnt mind, i just feel that you would understand.
Take care, Kathryn xxxx
To live, that would be a great adventure – Peter Pan
Dear Kathryn
There is no way that I would not respond to you, when we join this site, we joined a community of others that soon become family; and as you went to be with your sister, we are here to be with you, I am here to be with you. There is not much I can say other than to repeat that I an sorry for your loss; but this situation does bring to mind a song I have mentioned a few times in the past during other times of adversities; and that is "Mercy, Mercy, Mercy". The problem with this is that the song only acknowledges the needs of these suffering, it can not provide the comfort.
Nevertheless, I know for me that such songs, poems, or other types of inspirational offerings, and even just getting things out, let me see things in a way that just thinking does not permit. our thoughts of so full of "what for"s and "if only"s we do not let our true emotions do their job. We need to grieve, not question.
You being with your sister allowed her to start getting questions and blame out of her thoughts and for her to grieve; you were not out of control, your were guiding her to a more comfortable place in her mind. You might not have been able to see it then or even now, but later on when a thank-you from her comes for the most obscure reason, you will know that you were not useless.
Like the introduction to the song that I mentioned states; "Sometimes we are not prepared for adversities, … we don’t exactly know how to handle it, … we don’t know what to do …" But even with these uncertainties and adversities, even with our heartaches, life is good, and it’s adventures provide for much more happiness than sorrow – we only have to live it in a way that allows the good to overcome.
I think that Peter Pan would still choose life knowing that pain would be part of the adventures.
May God comfort you and your family. Thanks for listening to me and my babbling, thanks for being my friend.
Larry
"Day Two Is Another Day Behind" – With the help of a Higher Power, My 3G’s – God, GA, and GT, I will continue to be gambling free.– 8/21/2010 1:07:04 PM: post edited by paul315.