My son was 12 when his sister was killed we both were the last to see her when she left the house never to come home, yes he did have counselling through school I also had input as to what he spoke about and basically he said he had to be strong for his mum and dad I did feel he had dealt with his grief yet that was only as a child since adulthood 4 years ago he had a crash in his work van thankfully he was ok and was just weather conditions no one else involved he did say when the van turned over al his thoughts went to what his sister must have gone through I must admit the counsellor I had through break even did say she felt his stemmed from grief with what I told her.. he also had CBT through work where he said he did discuss everything including his sister I know there has to be a root to why this escalated as it has and he has agreed more counselling privately with a counsellor who deals with gambling I did speak to the helpline for advice and was told more counselling I found one local she actually works for break even where he went for his last counselling and knew the lady he had previously seen although she offered advice they didn’t really look into why and what triggers the relapses he’s had also told him to maybe keep a diary of each day he is gamble free I read a lot of posts where this has helped he has said he needs to be more proactive in filling his free time so from today we will see, he has a counselling session Thursday I’m hoping this gets him on the road to recovery I’ve also looked I to residential as he went to a retreat for 4 days last year which has cured his anxiety so I know this could be where we go if this current counselling is not enough he has agreed to me holding his card again he also called the bank and arranged to totally remove overdraft facility whilst I’m writing this he has told me he will get receipts for everything he spends as he is ready for this to end!! I really do hope so
Thanks for your input I will keep updated here
