Lizbeth, I am in shock even reading how your daughter has treated you so I can understand how you must be feeling right now. Children need consistent handling as we all know. The conflict that your daughter is creating for her son is very confusing. Using you, (his only stable force by the sound of things) as a scapegoat is very unfair.
Would you ask her to do some joint counselling so that both of you will be singing from the same hymn sheet at least in your dealings with the child?
This must be very stressful for you. It would be so easy to throw in the towel and gamble at a time like this but that would give your daughter serious ammunition against you.
Her way of dealing with the child is the easy way out Lizbeth. My own niece undermined my position with her 3 year old a few years ago when they were visiting my house and the child was playing up. I felt like strangling her so I know how you must feel.
The last thing children need is conflict!
Confront your daughter alone about this behaviour Liz and ask if , for the boy’s sake she could come to some agreement with you about her behaviour. It is very sad .
