Liz I am so happy that your daughter, grandson and ex-son-in-law are coming to spend time with you at Easter. In reading Vera’s post it made me think that it does seem that when you have a problem with your daughter or mother you seem to flip flop to the other. I wonder if it is more that you need to be “needed” if that makes sense. I don’t mean that in a bad way, and I can understand it. It gives you a purpose to be helping out with your grandson or your mother. I also think with your daughter etc. coming for Easter it gives you something to look forward to. I believe we all need something to look forward to, no matter whether it is going for lunch with a friend.
Your garden will be your sanctuary where you can sit and relax. You can tend to your flowers etc. and see the fruits of your labour. It must be difficult for you as well Liz as you are still grieving and adapting to being on your own. You have been Liz and husband for so many years and now you don’t have your husband to share things with. You are doing great and should be so proud of yourself. I think I have changed my way of thinking with my daughter and that is that we will not have a “perfect” relationship. We will say or do things and upset each other, but I also know that as a mother my love for her is unconditional and I will forgive her no matter what. I know that I will have hurt feelings at times, but I will continue to try and communicate this to her without raising my voice. I am putting all this down for my benefit Liz as I know there will be challenges when she moves back in our home. It is so much easier when we are calm to say these things, but when we are in the midst of a disagreement it is not as easy LOL Have a serene and gamble free day!!!!
