Laura hope you are keeping well, first of all my very best wishes to your cousin with her upcoming surgery my thoughts and prayers with you both, secondly my friend it is perfectly normal for a husband and wife to annoy each other with certain habits……well so my wife tells me lol, joking apart we are all different and all have our own “little quirks” I don’t know how long you have been together I have been with my wife for 22 years and now 41 so we meet very young, now I have said this many times when she has spoken to her friends and comes back and tells me they have a perfect life and they never argue with there partners………yes the first word that comes to my mind is a swear world lol and starts with bull however being serious all couples argue, annoy each other (to some extent) and have habits the other doesn’t like, in truth you are right to point them out so he can address them, if you both love each other like I am sure you do then everything will be good, we are what we are and there is nothing wrong with that, keep being you and keep doing what you do because I am sure he loves you that way.
Take care and always good to see you around and read yours post, my very best to you.
Maverick