Vera was blunt in her post and I agree with her 100%! Why sugar coat it, the truth hurts but also pushes one in the right direction at times. That’s just my opinion of course. Had I listened to my inner voice when the gambling issue first started to mess with my life and me, for that matter, I had put my foot down right away. The reason my hb finally made a last attempt with an inpatient, longterm treatment was only that I told him No More. No matter what it would do to me, my finances, my everything. Only when he had no way out did he make the decision to wrestle the beast and put it in a cage. He just knew that I was serious and would not budge. For us, it worked. He has been in recovery for over 6 years now and has become a very different person even if our marriage only exists on paper these days. Just saying….
