Hi Gvralls..
Do you think Frank aspired to end up living in his car in Florida?
I find this thread absolutely jaw dropping. You are, in my opinion, treading on very thin ice.
If great sex and good food are more important to you than your financial and emotional health, then you are a lucky man. It’s quite obvious to me, and probably to many others, that this lady is taking you for a ride. You more or less admit this in your above post. The fact that you would even consider opening a business for her is quite astounding.
You asked in your very first post if Nguyen was going to lead you down a road you didn’t want to go. I would suggest you’re already part of the way down that road, but it seems to me that you’re happy to be there.
Addiction is a powerful thing, as is love. They can both distort reality. Nobody asks for addiction in their lives, neither the addict or their loved ones. Nguyen needs help but until she realises this she won’t start to look. I don’t think she’ll realise this until people stop enabling her.
You say in one of your posts she’s promised to be completely honest about gambling with you and promises to only lose $200 on each casino trip. Then blatently gambled $300, but you don’t take issue with this.
Every time you allow her or take her to the casino you are allowing her addiction and you are enabling her to do it.
She knows that you’re easy to manipulate.
I’m not suggesting you bring your relationship to an end, but I think you should stop enabling her straight away. Ask yourself this if the relationship broke down now because you forbid her to gamble would that be as devastating as having the relationship break down in a few years when you’re sleeping in the car lot next to Frank.
Geordie.