It’s my whole family with the issue and not listening..my parents ano both my sisters. None of them wanot anything to do with me because of him. My father even called to the house to beat my partner up but luckily he didn’t answer the door. Yes he has told all his friends ano his family about the addiction. He had told me a long time ago that he had a history with addiction and overcame it but unfortunately in past months he slipped again and worse than ever.
He hit rock bottom ever before my family found out. But us sneaking around to meet up doesn’t feel right either as it’s just more lies. I really feel we need to be upfront and tell them that we are staying together and this is how it’s going to be and let them take the time to get used to it then.
My parter is addiction fantastic person outside of the addiction. I work in mental health so I have a massive awareness of addiction problems and how to protect myself financially and emotionally from the manipulation.
He is doing everything right….he’s attending ga, talking to friends, counting the days he’s been gamble free which is 34 days now, hes open to me about it all. Before I was always oh he’ll never change but this past week I have so much faith in him but I still know the chance of relapse is high and it’s still very early days.
I know I want to be with him. I just worry that my family will set out to destroy him which I turn will still end up with me losing my family as they’ll just push me further and further away. I’m already growing to resent them. Even with all my partner is going through he’s so supportive of my situation and is only one not making me choose….he’s giving me time to make my own decisions and supporting me no matter what I choose. His gambling is a major problem but luckily he has never had debt as bad as others I have read about and never expects me to bail him out….he takes responsibility for any debts he has no matter how long it takes to repay which I feel is also a positive.
I just hope my family learn to live with this. I am so happy with him as I never let his addiction drag me down….my family are the only ones taking me down. They told me I have brought shame on family for being with him and a disappointment to them all. They have to respect my choices as it is my life and I have been so unhappy this past week without my partner.
Thank you so much for your reply and I will most certainly join the chat on Thursday.
