Hi again Boss lady,
Living apart must be very difficult and confusing for you but if he is genuinely working on this addiction then he is working on your relationship because until he is free from the addiction there really is no room for anything else. Many gamblers would not make this move and would be bringing their partner down with them so it shows he cares.
Sorry if you have already said but does he have someone taking care of his money because he will find it hard to move forward if he has free access to his funds?
Gambling addiction is a horrible thing and a very hard thing for any of us non gamblers to get our heads around. It takes over the person and controls everything they do especially how they can relate to others. There is usually a great deal of shame, guilt and regret attached to it which in turn leads to more gambling as a way to forget and try and ‘fix’ it, of course that only makes it worse. Some times a gambler will push away those close to him/her feeling like they are will some how pollute others or that they are not worth loving. Your husbands behavior is no reflection on you, if he is trying to recover he has to do what he has to do and the fact he wants to is a good sign. A note of caution though in that it may be possible he is actually making more space to gamble by not having you around if he doesn’t have the right support, I am not saying that is the case I am just saying be mindful of it. It is also possible he might be trying to protect you or a bit of both.
My advice would be to try not to focus on the fact you are apart right now but instead keep on taking care of yourself, keeping yourself strong and working on becoming a stronger you. This will give you the tools you need for the future regardless of the outcome and the strength to do what is best for you. Looking after you is also the best thing you can do for your husband and for the relationship.
There is a lot of information on this and other sites where you can get more information to understanding about compulsive gambling to help you better understand, there are also various support groups I believe which may help. Don’t forget you can also talk live in the group here on a Thursday night 8-9pm UK time. Lily x