If so – it feels like you are gaining a lot from them.
My only query would be the 20 minutes – I would struggle with the “should I / shouldn’t I conundrum for hours at a time.
Still I agree with a lot of what you say. I have a friend who has a dig at me whenever I meet her – whether it be my drinking or my eating the wrong stuff or my staying up too late in the evenings. I still see it as “nagging” – but I have come to realise that it comes from a genuine concern for me – and that is the only way in which she knows to express it. I guess it was what happened in her family … whereas in mine, if my parents were concerned – they didn’t voice it. Often they didn’t show it – which might be how I come over!
Anyways – I hope things are turning for you and you continue to learn about yourself. Go well my friend.