I do know it takes a long time to change.
I also know that any compulsive gambler, who understands that they are powerless over their addiction, is capable of getting through one day without a bet.
There’s one thing that makes us gamble and that is ourselves. “I just couldn’t help it,” or “I just found myself in the bookies,” don’t hold much water, in my eyes.
You’ve proven to yourself and all the people who read the forums that you are capable of getting through a day without gambling. If you can get through one day, you can get through any day.
Vera said people had reservations about the monthly pact that was ongoing on here for a long time.
I was probably the biggest critic of it. Why make such sweeping commitments when it’s blatantly obvious that most new comers struggle to get through a day or two.
I was critical of it because it just becomes the written equivalent of lip service. “Just for today I will not gamble” becomes just words to some people, they write/say it but don’t really commit to it. So what’s the point of having a pact or pledge?
Also in those days there were a lot more using the forum and it was quite obvious sometimes that when one person went tits up it had a sort of domino effect.
35 years of my life has been consumed by gambling. I haven’t gambled at all this year.
You’ve got to find your own way through life and recovery Shaun, I’d be foolish to think that you or anyone will learn from my mistakes, I never learned from any body else’s.
I hope you keep on posting for your own good. And it would be daft you posting “just for today I won’t gamble” if you think that there’s a real chance you might.
I’m not disappointed mate. I’ve been using this forum for years and there is loads of times I’ve come on here asking for support and then just ignored it and I’m not the only one.
Answer me these two questions though please Shaun. What’s the best thing that could happen if you gamble. What’s the worst thing that will happen if you don’t?
Just for today mate, you can stop away from it.
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