the ins and outs of the situation – but I did understand the last couple of sentences.
Worry seems a weird thing. It doesn’t help the situation – in fact it often makes it worse, but we can’t help but worry sometimes.
I worried when I was badly in debt. Two things helped – first coming to terms with the situation – getting the facts (if I couldn’t pay the mortgage what then) and then coming to terms with the outcome. What is the worst that could happen? Are you certain that would be the outcome? If so can you come to terms with that – and hope for something better?
The other thing that helped was mindfulness – practicing this technique did quieten the little voice in my head which kept saying “what if …” Though I still say that it is more difficult to get mindfulness to work when you really need it!
Time will help though.
Remember that all this is an emotional response to what has happened. Logically, gambling will also not help the situation in any way – but our emotional mind will say “it wasn’t fair – I need to do something to take my mind off things – like gambling” As you say the answer is “hell no!”
I hope things go well for you.