You are not going crazy Toyman! You are living with an active CG and it can be incredibly frustrating and chaotic.
Talking and trying to reason with your wife at the moment is probably useless. As you have said she will undoubtedly tell you she is done this time for sure. I believe she really does mean that and doesn’t go out of her way to hurt you but it is an incredibly strong addiction and it usually gets its way.
I agree that gaining control of the money is your first order of business. This means all the money. Until they have some recovery behind them any access to money can be to tempting . She will not like this at all and it will hurt both of you but it really needs to be done.
This helps with abstaining from gambling which at least gives everybody time to breath but if she is to find true recovery it is up to her to seek. As Velvet says perhaps you could get her to go to a GA group and see if thats something she may be interested in. I know where I am there are meetings for woman only which is also another option.
It’s HARD toyman but there is help and support for both of you when you’re ready.
Cathy
