Hi Jrb,
We took so many years to become the person we are now, it will take time for us to change.
I am only speaking from personal experience, I remember when I was new, they told me, if all I did was stop gambling but nothing else about me change, I did not change, I only stop gambling, the rest about me did not change and that will send me back to gambling.
Hope you can understand what they are trying to tell me.