Hi Lily,
He has always said from the start that he was going to have a bet on Cheltenham. There was never going to be much to prevent that. I think the mess his brother is currently in is stemming how bad my CG is and, if I’m honest, I was actually surprised he was functioning enough to want to see me on pay day in the middle of Cheltenham. There are other times when that definitely wouldn’t have happened.
However, i know he is being dishonest about how much he has been betting. Ive seen some of the betting slips of what he lost and its not what he told me, which is disappointing but not unexpected.
I decided to see him and we went out for dinner. The WHOLE way there he was talking about Cheltenham. I had purposely not looked at any results so that I had no idea what he was talking about. Eventually, he recognised he was boring me talking about it and changed the topic.
Totally, we had a talk about what is going on with his brother at the minute, it was interesting to see it from CG’s perspective. That woke me up a little bit. But no there is no commitment from him and it is hard to see where there is a future. I’m moving myself forward in positive ways and that’s all I’m really in control of doing at the minute.
No, I didnt bail him out when he lost his wallet. That mistake was made a long time ago and he knows better than to come to me asking for money. Strangely, although he “lost” his wallet. He didnt lose his bank card, so i’m not sure what the purpose of the “lost” wallet was.
I know there’s no such thing as a good day at the bookies, I meant a day when he had come away with a “win”. That’s why I was concerned about meeting him. I thought that if he had had a win, dinner would be paid for with the money from that. He had obviously had losses all day though as there was a nice empty wallet.
He was actually on quite good form at dinner. He disappeared upstairs for a while when his pay went in, which he also did last week. And me reminding him that he needed to give me some money to go towards something we had agreed to split paying for resulted in a strop, a big charade about his internet banking and then going to the cash machine to make sure i got that money.
I got the money in the end, I know months ago I would have fallen for a world of lies, excuses and fake promises.
It’s hard not to get sucked in. I’m just staying really disengaged from the gambling and Cheltenham in general. Friday is the next big hurdle as from what he was saying yesterday, he is intending on having some big bets then.
Just looking after me x