Hi zedhead
That’s a really great post !
Fit your own oxygen mask first before you help or support anyone else .
It strange that we even have to say “be selfish about our recovery” or “put ourselves first” because most people already put themselves first – we somehow have learned to not value ourselves enough to do this .
I have discovered that by putting my recovery above everything I am able to be truly there for the people in my life . I am there because I am not distracted by the cravings , counting , shame , withdrawal and all the other horrible consequences of gambling.
I am a better mother, partner, sister and friend – because I put my recovery before all those people! Their highs and lows I will certainly be there for – I will not however allow them to treat me with anything less than respect just because I have made mistakes – when they become perfect then maybe …