Hi WM
You haven’t written for a while and I hope that means you are coping better. It would be great to get an update.
I cannot tell you what to do as all decisions have to be yours. I cannot say and would not say, for instance, that you ‘should’ talk to his close friends. It might be that you know some of his friends and that you know them well enough to trust them with the knowledge you have but sadly, I have known such confidences backfire. You could end up with an angrier son and one less person you can talk to. Family can be different but once again only you can gauge who can be trusted and who will listen and understand what you are saying – it isn’t easy I know.
Listening is my preferred, effective, step rather than talking. Asking a gambler to help you understand so that you can support him is often a great way forward – obviously if he uses this opening just to obtain more money then that is not helpful, however, I would imagine that your son is not happy and maybe he could be encouraged to talk about how he feels.
Hoping to hear from you again
As Ever
Velvet
