Hi Velvet,
Thanks for taking the time to write that post, last night I was angry as you could see and tired. I just woke up and have let things go there course as I slept. I won’t be bailing my mother out this time. As for my father we are both close and he knows about all the money that was taken last year from there retirement but not about the money she asked me for last night. Problem is if I tell him I know how he’ll react and he generally responds with anger when it comes to this. He’s older and comes from a family that had addiction issues but none of them “thought of them as addictions” so to say. Luckily he didn’t fall victim to it. I will bring up to him what I find out here though and I told my mom this morning that she needs to face him and deal with the consequences of her actions as they are in a bad financial spot and she made it worse.
It wasn’t a large sum of money withdrawn this time luckily it was only a couple hundred dollars, but I’m at a point in my life where I’m saving for a downpayment on my own house and I told her I will not support an addiction. She played the sorrow game but I told her no and if she needs help finding help I’ll help her.
It’s a good thing that I recently in the past year or so learned that when I’m angry to just go lay down and sleep, a good nights rest allowed me to clear my head and think things through a bit. I also have a cousin who’s dealing with a heroin addiction and I talk to his mother(my Aunt) about what to do as well.
Thanks,
Bill