Great – you have not gambled. Hang on to that. It is vital. You are aware that gambling has been the cause of trouble and distress and will not bring you any good. Stay strong about that and try to keep hope, moment by moment, day by day.
We cannot tell how the future will evolve or how other people will react, but do concentrate on keeping yourself on the right path.
I think your boyfriend’s family will be mainly concerned with his well-being and probably won’t be able to empathize with you, so try not to expect that they will be understanding. They may not have any understanding of addiction and they will only see the pain it causes their son (brother etc). Also, your boyfriend has wanted to help you, but may be feeling overwhelmed by things and this will perhaps explain his negativity and anger. Has he had any professional help? Does he know about the support for Family and Friends? Each person touched by the addiction has to find their own way forward.
I hope this does not sound too tough – I have really seen the pain you have been feeling and your need for support. The gambler and the F&F have different perspectives and usually need separate help to move forward. I hope this makes sense.
I really hope things work out better than you fear.
Keep posting.
Best wishes,
Monique