Hi Swissguy,
As you say, things will get better , the pain will fade and that’s when the urges may return.
That’s why now, while youa re still hurting is the time to put a few things in place.
Where do you gamble? Get yourself excluded. if it is online then you can get a blocker for your PC. The finances aren’t too bad at the moment? great, will your wife help by looking after them? Help you with accountability?
Things are strained between you right now, there is probably no reason for her to belive any words/promises she hears. So show her by your actions how serious you are. Actions like that will both help you stop gambling and may also help start to rebuild thigns trust wise.
Keep posting and let us know what positive steps you are taking.