Hi Sweet
You want to please so much that it is making you very vulnerable.
You don’t want to go to see your boyfriend, you don’t want to hurt him and yet he carries on threatening you without any thought for what ‘you’ feel.
He is a compulsive gambler Sweet and he is using underhand tactics to get what ‘he’ wants. You have absolutely no proof that he is not gambling, you have absolutely no proof that his brother is controlling his finances because he may relapse as ‘a result of the stressful situation with me’. This is blatantly putting the blame for a possible gambling relapse at your door and that is not where it should be – ever.
I think, in view of the heavy pressure he is putting you under it would be good if you told him that you cannot/will not agree to see him. It will be painful but I believe that it is important to draw a line under this unhealthy relationship. I think you need to be strong and say ‘no’ so that you can rebuild your confidence. As long as you are replying to him, he will keep making threats because he is a gambler and he is gambling with your mind, hoping to wear you down in the end and make you do what ‘he’ wants.
I can hear how difficult it is to be in your shoes; sadly you are not the first person I have heard who has to cope with such manipulation – because that is what it is Sweet. He is trying to manipulate you for his own gains.
Are you family supporting you now that they know you no longer want to marry this man? I hope so.
Speak again soon
As Ever
Velvet
