HI Sweet
I am very concerned that your boyfriend wants marriage and he ‘wants it quick’ – this sound to me like an active gambler talking who doesn’t want you to have time to think.
The compulsion to gamble is a selfish addiction and I hear a selfish man creating a lot of noise about what he wants. I believe the noise is meant to confuse you so that you don’t have the peace to think about what it is that you want. I believe you to be a kind, unselfish person and I suspect you are someone who wants to please – but I beg you to listen to yourself and ask yourself what it is that ‘you’ want.
His haste to get you pregnant is also very worrying. I can assure you that being tied into a marriage with a baby and an husband compulsively gambling is a dreadful way to live.
Having committed Sweet it will be a lot harder to control your own life and security. Surely it would be much better to have a long and thoughtful engagement, than to enter hurriedly into a relationship that is offering no security.
Your boyfriend doesn’t sound as though he is trying to control his addiction at all, he sounds to me like a man who is desperately trying to bully you into a hasty commitment before you have time to see him for what he truly is.
A marriage proposal should be about what both of you want, not just one half demanding ‘I want to get married, I want you pregnant’. This should not be just about what ‘he’ wants Sweet.
Even when you ready, I am sure you will never want to get married in Las Vegas which is the gambling capital of the world – this suggestion merely adds to my concern for you.
Please keep posting and please don’t make any rash decisions.
Velvet
