I agree with Velvet and Lily, taking care of yourself is the best thing you can do at this point. But I also think it is very difficult to focus on yourself when anxiety re. the finances is a daily companion. It all depends on the situation you are in, if you are financially dependend on your cg’s income or not is a huge factor. If you feel safe you are in a better place to support your cg and to take care of your own needs. At least that’s what it was like for me. I don’t know where you live (I’m in the US) but I signed up for a credit monitoring service and included my hb in it. I could do that without him knowing because he was in a terrible state at that time. They alert me when anything changes, credit checks done by third parties, changes in scores etc. I can look up all active accounts for cards and loans whenever I want to. It is worth every penny and gave me some peace of mind because I knew that I would be on top of things before it would be too late. Maybe it helps.
