Hi Stacey
Not only is it not selfish for you to put yourself first, in this forum it is the right thing for you to do and I am glad that you have found us.
Have ‘you’ ever sought support from counselors or Gamanon, or has it always been about your partner? Do you have family and friends to support you or are you carrying this all on your own shoulders?
You are important Stacey, you cannot stop your partner gambling but by looking after you first and gaining knowledge about his addiction you will learn to cope and retake control of ‘your’ life.
Have you given up hobbies and interests because of the time you have spent worrying about your partner’s addiction? Doing something for yourself everyday in which you shove thoughts of gambling firmly to the back of your mind will help you cope better – 24 hours of worrying about someone else and what they are doing is soul-destroying and it doesn’t help you or your CG (compulsive gambler)
I have brought up my thread entitled ‘The F&F Cycle’ which I hope will help you to see that you are understood here.
I am away this weekend Stacey,I will post to you again on Monday but in the meantime I hope you will get other replies.
Speak soon, well done starting your thread
Velvet