Hi Sophia
Compulsive gamblers can learn to control their addiction and live wonderful gamble-free lives or I wouldn’t be here.
It is, however, incredibly difficult for a man with a gambling addiction to face his demons and muster up enough courage to fight for recovery. It isn’t so much whether your boyfriend loves you enough, it is more whether he loves himself enough.
Your ex-boyfriend probably meant all the things he said to you and he could have said them from the bottom of his heart but if he cannot love himself enough to save himself then his words are just words and words are not enough, in my opinion.
Without action from him there will be no change.
You are not selfish taking a stand because the only person you can save is you. If your boyfriend has not done enough then you cannot force him to do more.
Your ex can change his life, he can control his addiction, he can prove to you by his actions that he is genuinely determined to live gamble-free.
I hope you will go out on trips with your friends and live the life you deserve. It is really important that you do not allow his addiction to destroy your life because that will not help him or you.
It would be great to ‘meet’ you in an F&F group sometime. I would love to hear from you again and to know that you are doing ok.
Velvet
