I’m sure you are feeling anxious about your wife coming home this week. The kids, they can be a great buffer, and may help ease any tension.
nI would imagine that the conversation that needs to be had will be.
nAll you can do is be brutally honest, leave nothing out, if you are going to start over a clean slate is the way to go.
nWords don’t mean a lot, it will be your actions that speak volumes. Whatever you are doing to aid your recovery, keep doing it. Your wife needs to SEE what you are doing to make yourself well.
nMy husband, when I stopped gambling, threw my addiction in my face for 2 years. I took every single bit of it, I deserved it for what I had done. After 2 years, I said, enough! There has to come a time when, after working hard at recovery, it stops. No one could beat me up more than I beat up myself. The guilt, shame, lies……..
nI’m not saying you need to do what I did. Its just part of my story.
nShow your wife you love her, missed her and want her. Sure, don’t smother her if she needs space, but give her what she needs and things will fall into place. Recovery on its own is not easy, but the people we have dragged into this addiction with us need to come to terms with things their own way.
nKeep working on you…..whatever happens!!!
nTake care, K xxx
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