Hi Monica ,
You said it – you are in a much better situation than you have been for a long time . Can you make a conscious decision to give yourself the weekend off (which is so much easier said than done ) and just enjoy the sense of having a bit of money – go to a coffee shop with a book and chill. ? You deserve a break from it all. Having said that I know how difficult it is to switch off from worries.
Monica I cannot stand when people who play the “I have it worse than you ” game . You are not the same – none of us are. This addiction has damaged more than our bank balance . Your friend has been dragging you down for a while. We are all adults and do not need to be told how to live our lives or how we should be – so well done on your assertiveness and ability to make that decision to end the friendship.
I have worries at the moment – the usual mummy ones and the difficulty in coming to terms with being a “has been ” in work. It hurts , it invades my mind a lot and it is making me a tad bitter as I watch social grouping take priority over ability and experience – but it is what it is . I keep telling myself I am so lucky to have a well paid job and I try to see the bright side.
Now my situation is nowhere nearly as bad as yours is/ has been but never once did you fail to understand or offer support over my issues . Your friend has not afforded you that support . We can find enough people in life to drag us down- (not so long ago I had horrible experiences on this site !!). None of us need that kind of support .
My advice (and it is only advice ) is take use whatever it takes to get by nicely without putting in too many hours- as for the debts – stuff them! (Easiest way around them!)
Your friend ( ex- friend ) is so wrong – we all have transferable skills and you have so many !
The right job will come along . The last job maybe was sent along to help you consider whether you want to work full time again.
You deserve the very best life has to offer !
Xx