Hi Memelee,
Steev has already given you some great advice, there are many positive steps that you can take and a lot of support available to you, here and elsewhere.
The thing that I would add is that you kep saying “we” and “us”? If “memelee” is in fact two of you then I recommend getting your own, individual user names.
Speaking to both of you I would say that IF your partner gambles/decides they don’t need support then YOU will still be a compulsive gambler and need to be doing this for YOU.