Hi Maverick
Supportive posts are welcome anywhere and none of us knows when perhaps something we say rings a bell that brings about a little change in someone else’s life. Thank you for your words in F&F.
Far too many people are unhappy with the job they have and work to just pay the bills but that is only part of a life – unfortunately the unhappiness can spill over and make the non-work part feel not so good.
You seem to be visualising the whole picture as a big mess with no answers. When life gets like that Lee it is best just to take one small part, work on that and hopefully get it right. Achieving something, however small is good for the soul. I suggest you give your wife some of your time and make it good, not just for her but for you too. Perhaps sit her down and make her a cup of tea and just talk about anything but work or gambling. Remember why you fell for her in the first place because that girl is still there.
42 days gamble-free is certainly not part a mid-life crisis, it is you doing something different and although it isn’t easy, you are achieving something special. Being 40 is great (I wish I was) – you have so much life ahead of you and enough experience behind you to make a real success of the things that matter to you. ‘You’ matter Lee and your wife and children.
Keep posting, you might be feeling muddled but taking one small step at a time will help to ease the muddle. Your message in F&F wasn’t muddled – it was loud and clear, thankyou.
Velvet
