I thought I had the only mother that was envious of her children! I saw something on FB reciently. It was something to the effect that to” be careful what you say to your children, it becomes their inner voice later.” I responded to my friend that posted it that that finally explained what was wrong with me! I can’t remember my mother ever saying she was proud of me. She never told me I was pretty. The first time I remember her telling me she loved me was when I was 16 and in very bad condition after having my gall blatter and apendex removed.
In recovery I am learning to let that stuff go. She had an awful childhood where she went hungey and was insecure. I have to accept she did the best she could. It wasn’t that I wasn’t loveable, she just wasn’t capable of giving what she didn’t have.
My mom is an unhappy person and she gets kicks out of saying stuff to tick people off. A great example is watching the Bears game and they screw up. She wil say something like “Ha Ha HA! I KNEW they would loose!”
Looks like I ran away with your thread-sorry about that!
You’re doing great Liz! Don’t let her take your joy!
bettie
