Hi Kpat, your lovely son is being a normal teenager and pushing the boundaries while still needing them, wanting the safety of his relationship with mum and dad while at the same time trying to move beyond it . Sounds like you and your husband handling of things was textbook, which explains why it took 16 years for this to happen.. I would be so proud of my family if I were you.
I have been having some difficulties with my son and to be honest I am starting to focus on how much I have done right and how good he is…. Not perfect but good .
I remember getting the slap in the face … I still kinda resent it to be honest because I know my brother or sisters wouldn’t have been treated that way .. But then maybe I was more difficult ..
Congratulate yourself on your great marriage, your lovely family and all that you have done so well.. This doesn’t happen by a accident .