Hi Jenny
I only had enough time to read your post before the group and I wanted to get something off to you quickly just in case the Brownies overran so I hadn’t read the post written prior to mine until now. I am not sure why there is a reference to me with regard to this post’s content but having now read it I am in agreement with it although I believe that the addiction to gamble is cunning rather than clever.
You have experienced so many let-downs that I am sure you will soon be in no doubt as to what you should avoid but I know it is easy to forget and be befuddled. The desire to want to believe that a person is good tends to make fools of us all – I think too that we can naively believe that by being generous in spirit we will help our CG see how much better it is to be kind but the active CG perceives kindness as a chink in the armour, an opening for enablement. Only you can stop this roller-coaster Jenny – even if he changes his life, you can make your own decisions and determine the way it is going to be.
You know the right thing to do but of course the hard bit is doing it and that is why this forum is here, to support you while you are making painful decisions that are right for you and your children.
I am glad that you are posting again and I hope the Brownies will allow you to come to more groups.
Don’t beat yourself up – you tried again and you got kicked in the teeth – it’s a learning curve but you will get there.
V
