Hi Jenny
I think ‘Oh even when the CG is not in your life, he still is’, makes perfect sense to me. As the father of your daughter he is inextricably in your life but with the knowledge you have gained, his addiction is not – I hope I make as much sense as you!
I believe that you have all the tools you need and the sixth sense to know what is right for you and your children although I agree the learning process is still going on.
I know your tears will dry up when you see the view from the top of the mountain – it is a fantastic view but I think it is far too early yet for you to concern yourself about whether you will know if he is gambling again – I think the barriers have to remain high and in need of constant repair for a very long time. Self-care should remain a priority for ever in my opinion.
I think you are right not to trust him but I think you can trust yourself. I look forward to reading that you are in control not just more in control but that takes time and you are doing well.
I suggest the addictive monster is still in the corner but ‘possibly’ becoming a little confused if its owner is indeed going to GA and learning how to render its claws ineffective. Monsters like that don’t like being thwarted though and they should never be underestimated – but then you are aware of that.
Keep posting Jenny and if Brownies finishes early I look forward to seeing you in the group
You have earned a big gold star for effort – well done
V
