Hi Jenny
I would imagine after the threat he made that he is possibly trying to find out, using this implausible phone story, whether he has got away with it or not, with his history of violence on record, he is probably worried how you have reacted this time.
He ‘gave’ you the phone, he didn’t say he was lending it to you – it became your property and you down-graded it because you were short of money and needed to provide for your joint family when he was not providing.
He also might just want the phone back and with a memory that leaks like a sieve believe that it is his on demand. (If he is texting you I assume he already has one phone!) If it was me, I would have done the same as you but if you are worried maybe you could talk to the CAB or the phone company to set your mind at rest.
Possibly it is just a matter of shaking the dirt off but in my opinion you will need a bit of extra help, a physical, visual, presence to push the cart up the hill, if he makes any more threats.
It doesn’t surprise me that you are anxious, any mother would be in this situation. In my opinion it is good to read the texts but not respond – just as you are doing. Any text that you sense is menacing, report it and talk about it to those who care about you – do not shoulder this on your own.
Its hard climbing a mountain and pushing a cart when your children are in the cart and need to be protected from harm but I have no doubt you will succeed, occasionally you need a bit of an extra hand and you should never be afraid to ask for help but you are doing great.
Velvet
