Hi Jack
As an organisation we do not give legal advice which is why different member’s experiences are so valuable.
This organisation supports those affected by the addiction to gamble so that they can make their own informed decisions on their lives. While they are making what is probably the most important decision of their lives, however, a hug and a listening ear can be the greatest support and comfort of all.
It is not inevitable that your sister’s husband will fall off the proverbial wagon although he does need treatment. I am happy to say I know of many CGs who live wonderful, useful lives. What your sister wants from her relationship is important. Many family members often just want to see the CG gone in the belief that if you get rid of the person then life will return to ‘normal’. However CGs are not bad people and they are loved. It is important, I think, to respect that some people do not see getting rid of the CG as their answer although obviously I don’t know what your sister wants.
Nomore is right when she says that there is no need to be embarrassed when talking to banks etc. because this is a recognised addiction and it occurs in the best families and relationships. Your brother-in-law neither asked for nor wanted his addiction and however he appears to be, his self-esteem will be poor – he needs treatment and it is available. He probably gambled for fun as so many of us have done but for him addiction was waiting and he would have been in too deep by the time he realised it.
So keep communicating with your sister and hugging her – you are doing a great job
Velvet
