Hi Helpmerecover and Carlo,
First of all Carlo, take note of what I’m writing here but then can you start your own Thread please. Then you can both talka bout your own situation and get your own support. Just scroll down to the bottom of the Forum and click on new Topic.
Ok, my advice to both of you would be to concentrate on your own addiction. As the safety talk goes before an aircraft takes off – “Put your own oxygen mask on first, then you can help those around you.”
So, what will stop yopu gambling? Get yourself banned from the casino that you usually go to. That way your partners/friends gambling can’t tempt you as much. You not being able to go might actually start helping them as well. Is there anyone else who can help look after your money for you? At the very least keep it separate and unaccessible to your partner, so that they can’t use your/family money to gamble with. Make it clear that you wil not be paying their share of bills, bailing them out of trouble etc
Use the support that is out there, keep posting here, get to Gamblers Anonymous meetings etc. It will help you and again you might be helping your partner by example.
Keep posting both and let us know what steps you are starting to take to address YOUR gambling. If your partners continue to gamble then there may come a time that you have to make some tough decisions, using support to address your own addiction will put you in a better place to make those decisions.
Again, Carlo, please start your own thread so that you can both get your own support.