Hi Frankie
You are going to get lost if you keep using 2 threads. Please stick to this one. All the people who have replied to you on the extra thread you have started will find you here and get your full story if you just stick to this one.
We cannot give advice, Advice is often asked for when you know the answer but wish that you didn’t. Only you can know what it is right for you but having kicked him out, I think you have to ask yourself why are questioning your decision, when you don’t want to be treated badly. What has he done towards seeking help that makes you think he will be any different?
My CG was active for 25 years and didn’t stop until I ceased all enablement and he couldn’t find it anywhere else.
As I have said before, if you give a CG an ultimatum it is important to be sure you mean to carry it through because if you go back on it the addiction will have won and will get worse, never better, until it is treated.
What happened when you downloaded the 20-questions for him?
I will never allow the addiction to gamble back into my life because I know what it is to live with it – that is my decision. Your life is not mine but whatever you do has to be ‘your’ decision. I suggest you read back all the replies you have had and hopefully you will be clear what is right for you
You have support here Frankie but it important that ‘you’ look after yourself and make the right decisions for you and your son.
Velvet