Hi Emkae
Options are limited when an active CG will not get help.
You feel that if you stay you will be miserable and yet you love him – have you downloaded the 20-questions for him and if so what was his reaction? Did you mention our anonymous Helpline which he can contact without making the effort to go and see someone?
If you wanted to suggest that he comes on this site and you are worried that he will see your thread then you can always ask our helpline to make your thread invisible – it doesn’t go away. If this is your decision, I hope you will use the groups so that you can get continued support.
Are you strong enough to ask him to leave and do you have family support if this is what you decide to do?
If your husband does not get help then your future is in your hands and I cannot tell you what to do – only you can make such decisions. I know he can change but he has to want to do so. In my opinion, he should prove to you that he is committed by making positive moves towards support because words are not enough.
Please keep posting; having appeared in this forum you are in the thoughts of all those who are facing similar decisions; sharing and reading their posts will give you the strength to do whatever you decide to do.
Velvet
