Hi Dilea
Have you decided not to get married, at this moment in time, or are you still wavering?
I know what it is like to think you have tried everything but I suggest to you that you have just tried something different by writing here and I hope it is going to be the difference that gives you the glimpse of hope and a little light, for you, for your future.
The man you love can control his gambling, it takes dedication, determination and courage but I wouldn’t be here writing to you if I didn’t know he could do it. I cannot tell you what to do Dilea because important decisions about ‘your’ life must be yours but fixing himself does take time and there is no way he will, or could, be fixed in 8 weeks.
The man you love didn’t ask for or want to be, a compulsive gambler but sadly if it is so then it is important that you protect yourself. It isn’t stupidity that makes people blind to the signs of a gambling addition, it is an understandable unawareness because the addiction is secretive and is very often hard to detect. You are no longer unaware and therefore you can look after yourself and make decision that are right for you and probably right for him.
The tunnel may be long Dilea but thankfully you do not own an addiction and therefore you can move on and live your life free from it.
I will leave this reply here and wait to hear from you again as to whether you want to continue supporting the man in your life until he accepts his addiction, seeks treatment and determines to live gamble-free – or you decide on a different outcome for yourself. I will be pleased to walk with you through this difficult and lonely time regardless of your decision, I will understand completely whatever you decide to do.
Velvet