Hi Cathy
Saying ‘no’ is so hard isn’t it and yet it is such a small word? You mother is manipulative and knows just how to push your buttons and I’m sorry to say that soothing words from another, possibly cannot take away your pain and confusion but you are retired now and in my opinion, you deserve a better relationship than the one your mom is offering you. Have your tried saying ‘no’ and sticking to it? Maybe it is worth a try.
Your mother says she has no food but do you know whether this I true or not?
Cathy, you know you have been a good daughter, you know you are not selfish, judgemental and mean – look at the person saying these things and ask yourself if her opinion really matters or is it the rambling of someone with an addiction and possible dementia? When your mother is determined to find fault with you and judge you regardless of truth; the only way you can win is not to play the game. In my opinion it is time for you to stop being the target for your mother’s cruel and unnecessary remarks, you don’t deserve them.
Please keep posting, you are in my thoughts
Velvet
