Hi Caroline
His progress sounds good but you are right not to get excited, it is early days – but true recoveries do have to start somewhere and nobody can ever judge when that is – not even the CG.
With regard to his slipping again – it happens, it doesn’t ‘have’ to happen but if it is nipped in the bud it need not be a negative thing.
He is going without support at the moment and that is not the best way forward but as long as he feels better for being gamble-free it is something for him to look back on if he slips – he needs good memories because at the moment they are not good.
This is a really difficult time for you I know – it is impossible not to have your hopes raised slightly but they will be heavily tinged with fear. I can only say ‘enjoy the gamble-free days’ and hopefully your pleasure will make him feel that what he is doing is worthwhile.
All that you have said you are doing sounds great; it doesn’t help to bring up the past when a recovery might be happening. I suggest you don’t praise but show your appreciation by being happier yourself – while keeping an eye on his behaviour at the same time. There is no point in blaming a CG for the waste of time and money because nothing will change what has gone before – you are maintaining a fine balance and that sound just right.
Speak soon
Velvet
