Hi Carol, when someone close dies it is strange how we remember even the most insignificant details about the day, eg I can remember what I was stirring in a pot when I took the call. …Also what was on the Worktop even though it was six years ago. I think if it is close to Christmas when we lose someone the significance of it being Christmas is magnified in our memories, so we start to associate Christmas as with losing people. Also as Christmas is such a family time when we feel we should be celebrating with family and enjoying the fruit of our labours, if we lose someone the contrast between bereavement and our expectation for Christmas is huge. It kinda stays with us. Our memories of Christmas are no longer just of turkeys and presents but now include grief and loss so it is quite likely that we will come to associate Christmas with losing someone.that said as you put it we can lose people any time of year. It is kinda like gambling isn’t it? Our minds play tricks on us. We have one big win so we associate gambling with winning. For some reason we quickly forget all the losses, just like we forget all the good Christmases . Your name reminds me of a happy Christmas all year round. Please enjoy and have a very Happy Christmas Carole.
