Hi BU,
You’ve done the right thing regardless of the initial fallout it causes. It’s the right thing for you and also the right thing for both of you as a couple.
You haven’t just told him so you can cope, it’s much, much more than that. Yes he’ll be shocked, upset and there may even be trust issues initially, but when the dust settles and he comes to terms with this and starts to understand your problem, you’ll both realise that it was the best thing you could have done.
This secret World that you were living in, that all CG’s live in, is now shattered and exposed which will make it more difficult for you to gamble. A problem shared is a problem halved and you’ll be much stronger as a unit rather than trying to face this alone.
I would be devastated if a partner of mine was suffering in silence, I would want to know everything so that I can help and I’m sure he’ll feel the same.
It is much better you both discuss this face to face so it’s probably a good thing that he hasn’t text you back.
Good luck BU, you’ve done an incredibly brave thing, really hope everything works out for you sooner, rather than later.
Charlster