I’m so sorry compulsive gambling has your family in its grip. I would imagine it’s twice as hard when his dad is encouraging the gambling.
When actively gambling my son was an incredible liar, manipulative, nasty and unrecognizable. As moms we naturally try to fix them. We talk until we are blue in the face, we threaten, we scream, we cry but nothing seems to get through.
It is a serious addiction that is very progressive. He didn’t ask for this yet it will be his to manage for the rest of his life.
Your part is to learn as much as you can about this addiction and finding as much support for yourself as you can cuz this is really tough and too hard to do alone.
Keep writing on here, try a Gam Anon group… Things that will help to give you support and perspective.
Take Care