Hi Bettie, , I think sometimes us gamblers have to just think me first. My recovery, my peace of mind , my feelings first.
It is hard to think we have hurt someone but do they apply the same feeling to us
Some people simply don’t deserve our love, or maybe don’t realise how important it is to them until they are in danger of losing it.
You are not a door mat or a counsellor. YOU want a relationship with this person that is equal . Why not put your cards on the table completely and see what happens. At least you will know where you are in his list of priorities. It’s a hard thing to do but you can move on with your life either way…and be open to new possibilities.
Well done for not gambling !! PROUD OF YOU!!