Hi Bella
I am sorry that I haven’t come back to you before but I have had a situation in my life that I had to deal with.
However I hope that you will return to this forum where I can support you through the sadness that has engulfed your life.
It is so difficult when a parent is not able to be the person that you want them to be but sometimes in our lives we come up against situations that we cannot change. At such times it is important that we look after ourselves.
I was hoping that you would pop into a group so that we could ‘talk’ in real time – maybe on Thursday evening between 20.00-21.00 hours UK time you could drop in – nothing said in a group appears on the forum, you will be very welcome.
I suspect your mum is struggling too, are you supporting each other?
Your dad didn’t ‘choose’ to be addicted to gambling, nobody would make that choice. He probably gambled some time ago for fun without realising that for him it would lead to addiction.
The best way you can help him is to look after you, be the best and the happiest person that you can be and live the life that you deserve.
Do you have siblings? Is there anybody in your family that you can talk to?
Please update, I will be looking for you.
I wouldn’t be writing to you Bella if I didn’t know that your dad couldn’t control his gambling. It takes courage to control it and often takes a great deal of pain, both for the person with the addiction and those who love them.
Speak soon
Velvet
