Hi Bedder
It is great that you have 2 gamble-free days behind you now and even better that you have been referred to therapy.
I hope I can shed some light on your wife’s reaction. She will have been shocked by what you have told her and as the knowledge sinks in she will naturally feel anger, disappointment and sadness and she will experience a lack of trust.
She will not be able to understand the problem quickly, indeed it might take her quite a while but now that matters are now out in the open you can both begin your recoveries.
It might help your wife to talk about her worries and concerns and I would be delighted to welcome her on to the Friends and Family forum or into an F&F group – there is one tomorrow evening between 22.00-23.00 hours UK time. The group is private; she can voice all her concerns anonymously and safely. She will hear that you can control your addiction and that with her support you will do better. She will learn that you didn’t ask for or want your problem. She will hear that now you have accepted your addiction and you are determined to control it, that you can be the man that you want to be and the man and father she wants you to be.
At no time would it be suggested that she leaves you.
She is unable to help you with your mood at the moment Bedder, she is struggling to come to terms with her life turned upside down – just as you are. With knowledge she can give you the support you need but please remember that she needs support from you too, especially in these early days
I hope she will seek support, as you have done.
I wish you well
Velvet
