Hi Austin,
You have made amazing progress and it strikes me you are doing some things which others could learn from. I have just read your thread from start to end.
1. You have been honest with your wife
2. You trust in God for the things you cannot control
3. You journal about your feelings
4. You prepare in advance for times you may be tempted
5. You try to see the good in others rather than blame them
when things go wrong.
6. You are so focused on family.
7. You are solution focused.
I am going to try practice these things also – thank you so much for sharing .