HI Annabelle
I can see that you have already dismissed the suggestion by your husband that Gamanon members are weird! Gamanon groups are closed meetings so I am not sure how he is making his assessment but I wonder if it is because he is a little afraid that you are learning too much. I remember my CG told me that he thought I should go to Gamanon but when I did he regretted it for a time. Your response (or lack of it) was terrific; you didn’t enter a pointless possible argument – well done.
A really positive move in your next paragraph – you put seeing your girlfriend first and of course the added bonus was that the dog got company.
Then paragraph 3 and concern bubbles up but for work not gambling. CGs are often very keen to work because they need the money to gamble; do you feel he chose work over you or is he in a profession that demands its employees are on call? I know in this modern world that more people are expected to jump to the employer’s tune but what was your feeling on this?
I am really not in a position to answer whether or not he is playing in regard to staying the night but I do agree with you that if it was me I wouldn’t ask him again – I feel it might give him the impression that he is still pulling the strings and that is not what you want. Put yourself back in the driving seat, determine your journey and do what you want to do first.
Keep posting – it is an uphill battle I know but bit by bit you will know what is right for you.
Kind Regards
Velvet
