There is no way to know whether he is gambling since we are long distance. I only take his words and look for evidences, for example the fact that his brother is not complaining about anything for a while.
Thank you for reminding me that there’s no cure for gambling addiction.
We have not spoken about the subject for some time because all he talks about is marriage and he wants it quick. He has been speaking to agencies to do it in Las Vegas because it is fast and a lot less bureaucratic. He also contacted such services in Denmark for an express marriage.
He wishes me to visit him next month and he wanted me to get pregnant. I don’t know why he is in such a hurry.
So he says he hasn’t been gambling because he wants a family with me and last times we talked about gambling he blamed me by saying he doesn’t think about gambling anymore but as I bring the topic he remembers he has a disease and ends up gambling.
So he basically said that it was my fault that he gambled last time.
At this point he still considers himself cured and still seeks no treatment.
His brother is currently controlling all his finances and I think he doesn’t even have his credit card. He said if I marry him I will have to do this job to control all the finances, keep his credit cards and he will transfer all his salary every month to an account under my name because if he doesn’t have access to money he doesn’t have any way to gamble.
It is a lot to process and I feel I am being pushed to make a very important decision in a hurry. I don’t want to get married in Las Vegas. Crazy.